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HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi all, I know its been a long time since ive been on here but i really need help. That inner fatty is back.... It's partly to blame with stress as i know food is a problem when i am under pressure but i need someone to give me some advice. I'm now weighing in at 12.5stone, thats outside of my top end, which is 12st. I know part of it was just coming back from new york and going from 1carb meal a day to 3carbs a day but asides exercise has anyone got any stress eating tips?? I feel like i've failed again and dont want to have to use LL again as a crutch...

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  1. Hang in there

    So, you are 7 pounds over your buffer, you have broken your self inflicted barriers, this isn't the end of the world but it will be if you allow it to spiral. There are some great comments here about the stress and also what to have that isn't high in calories, I would ask though - how did you handle stress when you were on LLT? You have proven to yourself that you didn't need food then - I find it impossible to believe that you didn't have stressed during your time on total. Instead of thinking about failure, cast your mind back to how you coped then, remind yourself that you were capable then and are therefore just as capable now.<p><p>
    You did it, you don't want to go back, I bet like me you thought, when didn't I tackle this before I had such a mountain to climb. Why did I think I was off the scales when I was a size 18? Why didn't I fix it then when the problem was small instead of waiting until 22 stone. Well I chalk it up to the nature of life, now was my time to sort these issues. You are now at that point where you can learn that weight needs management just about all the time. You have choices, you can have whatever you want but make sure you make an active choice and if that is to have a carb filled meal, the choice you make is to eat something that may cover the stress but will add a different stress. Each time you think about eating think about the positive power of choice you have - and whatever you do don't beat yourself up, we know that doesn't help and half the time it completely hinders.<p><p>
    You have come to the right place for support although I am sure if you read your diary entries and posts you would likely be able to motivate yourself all on your own!<p><p>

    Don't let yourself down, get back on the horse, believe in yourself, you can and will do it! Alison x
    Posted: 11/04/2012 22:42 By: edinburghallie
  2. keep going

    Some times in our own lives we do 'fail' but most often our own perceived failure is a state of our own minds - its how you get back up that is the measure of you.

    Come on - look at what you have done!
    Posted: 14/03/2012 18:58 By: reesi
  3. You've definitely NOT failed!!!

    How can you say you've failed?? You've had such a tremendous journey on LL. I know it's not going to be easy to maintain 10 stone and above losses, but you've done what I intend to do - give yourself a buffer zone and then do something about it quick, before it gets any worse! Once you've had a taste of being slim, my guess would be that no-one wants to go back to being obese or in my case morbidly obese. So I wish you every success in getting back into your buffer zone and congratulations for doing something about it so quickly! I know you can do it and look forward to seeing your results again.
    Chris x
    Posted: 29/02/2012 17:23 By: way2big
  4. Hello

    I'm not sure about you, but when I'm stressed all I want to do is eat & eat & eat, especially sweet things. Hartleys sugar free jelly usually does the trick for me then, Make up some pots with some fruit in and it'll give you sweet treat without all the calories. Oh, and lemon & ginger tea calms me down, and having the warm drink stops me wanting to eat too! Also stay away from bread & other heavy carbs, I find that physically eating them might be nice and relieve the stress, but I feel so much worse afterwards & it'll bloat me for days! You've had a formidable journey losing your weight, and you've reigned yourself in before, so I've 100% faith in you that you'll be back on track in no time! x
    Posted: 29/02/2012 15:45 By: DanniGirl
  5. Hi

    This definitely won't be for everyone but I struggled with stress due to my work and used wine more than food to try and control it. A friend recommended a hypnosis phone app and I've never looked back. Max Kirsten has a web site where you can download his sessions or you can buy the apple app if you use iphone/pad. I know many people are but off by hynosis but it's helped me 100%, I can deal with stress and feel much more positive in work. I usually listen to it at night in bed and I'm asleep by the time it gets half way through but the message still gets through. My friend finds a quiet corner in the office at lunch time sometimes, sticks her headphones on and listends to the booster session. Just an idea :) I think coming on here and asking for help is a great step forward. Good luck! Denise x
    Posted: 29/02/2012 10:23 By: wavydenise
  6. Hi!

    If I remember rightly we were doing LL at the same time. I started Jan 7th 2010. I seem to remember following your progress and you lost sooooooooooo much weight.
    I came back to LL in Jan this year 2 stones heavier than I wanted to be. I'm not doing Total, I'm doing my own version which mainly involves restricting the carbs to the minimum.
    I have lost 18lbs so far, so not much more to go now.
    I don't look at it as using LL as a crutch, but going back weekly to get weighed keeps me on track and motivated.
    As for stress eating tips, the first thing is to address the stress! Easier said than done I know but if you can ease the stress it will help.
    Keep coming on here, you'll get all the help and motivation you need (as you know).
    You don't have much to lose and think how good you will feel when you get back to where you want to be.
    Why not join in with the Easter Challenge? 5 or 6 weigh ins depending on your wigh in day, will easily see you at your goal.
    Don't think of yourself as a failure, think of it as learning from your actions. xx
    Posted: 29/02/2012 09:23 By: supergran
  7. Hello! ;-)

    Hello my dear. Sorry you are feelIng bit low but glad you came on here to get support. We are all here for the journey and that includes some ups and downs here Nd there whatever stage we are at. I'm sure you willbe track on track soon. My tip would be to get walking and generally active. Eg stairs instead of lifts. Getting up and down in house todo things in separate trips rather than leaving to do things in one trip. Other than that getting your old ll journals and books witheverythingyou wrote in them out will remind you of how much you have achieved and what you have it on you continued doing. Take Care and keep smiling.
    Posted: 29/02/2012 00:39 By: dwil
  8. Welcome Back

    Hi

    Well done for getting back to the forum and not being afraid to ask for help. You have done soo well and must never think you are a failure......just look back on your LL journey for the proof. My advice would be the use the forum as the 'crutch' it brilliant for motivation and I am sure we could all do with some help and advice from you as you a very much an inspiration to us LL'ers. I find have a relaxing bath takes my mind off stress and food. I am also looking for new exercise classes I have never done before to help focus my mind and de-stress. Good luck x
    Posted: 28/02/2012 23:22 By: mknortheast